I regularly check my junk mail, because in the past I’ve
missed important messages and even work opportunities that went to junk mail.
This morning, there are junk emails about “Christian Matches” and “Sex Dating”.
Definitely junk. I’m not looking for either of those things. I mean, it
would be great to meet some non-religious person who I liked and who liked me,
spend some time together, get to know each other, and, eventually, have sex as
part of a healthy relationship. But I can’t imagine finding that through either
of those junk emails.
I’m not really interested in pursuing online dating.
Quite a few years ago, I had dates with two women I met on OK
Cupid. They were...okay. (Pun intended.) They both seemed nice, and we got on
well enough. I might have become friends with either or both of them, if we’d
spent more time together. But there was no “spark,” no significant chemistry.
And neither went beyond that first date. In one case, I left town (NYC) for
work that came up suddenly, and I didn’t return. The other woman met someone
else (on OK Cupid) with whom she did “click” romantically, and we amicably
parted ways.
Ten years ago – no wait, more like 12 or 13 (Wow!) – I met someone who was a
friend of a friend on facebook. We got on great... at first. We dated for several
weeks. I don’t remember how long, exactly, but probably not quite a month. She
lived in the next town over, so we weren’t hanging out every day, but we went
out once or twice a week, and we talked a lot, online and on the phone. It
didn’t work out. There were some very basic problems, which I won’t get into
here. But that “relationship” was the closet I’ve ever been to someone setting
me up with a woman they thought I would like, and I had requested that person
introduce us. I’ve never been on a blind date, nor been invited to some
gathering specifically to meet someone's cousin or a friend of a friend.
I guess what I’m getting at is this:
I’m tired of being alone. I don’t seem to meet anyone who I
like, AND who is available, AND who is even reasonably age-appropriate for me.
(Seriously, most women I meet I am probably their parents’ age. Or
older.) I haven’t been on a date in many years (not to mention how long
it's been since I’ve had sex... you know, with another person). So. If you consider
us to be friends, and you know someone who lives at least sort of near me, who
you think might be a good match, then . . .
. . .
. . .
Well, what are you waiting for!? Set us up! I mean, maybe first, ask each of us
what we’re looking for, and (maybe more important) NOT looking for, in a
potential mate. But get on with it, we’re not getting any younger. Don't you
want us to be happy? Like you are? (Well, maybe like you were when you first
met your mate.)
