“...so comfy and roomy feels natural to me...”

This afternoon I saw a very attractive girl, who was a little “heavy”. And those lines from Bill came to mind. I thought she looked great. Her body type reminded me of another girl who I find very attractive. So it wasn’t that this one corpulent chick was an exception. I’ve found many women who had a little weight on them...

(ya know, there just aren’t many nice, positive ways to describe such a person)

...to be attractive. I’ve also found thinner girls to be attractive. I suppose what it comes down to is that I find attractive girls attractive.

Someone I know posted this link the other day:

Why It's Important to Feel Good NAKED.

It’s a little long, and I didn’t read the whole article. But the gist I got was that it’s healthy to be comfortable with your body, despite what you might perceive as flaws. And it tends to make you seem more confident = sexier.

Yeah, person who Oprah interviewed!

It reminded me of something I’ve thought several times in the past. There’ve been several girls I knew when they were in college, and I’d thought they were very beautiful girls. Then when I saw them a few years later, and they had lost a lot of weight, I just thought it was a shame: they used to be so beautiful and now (I guess compared to the image of them in my head) they seemed like skinny little things. I mean, they were still attractive, but I sort preferred the heavier version. They’d seemed a little healthier before.

That’s not to say that I’m “into fat chicks”. As I mentioned above, I’ve also found thin girls attractive...but not the ones who seem too skinny, like they’re too skinny for their own bodies. Definitely not healthy.

I’m also reminded of part of a conversation the other night. I was talking with a friend about women & relationships, I think. She said something like “it’s about the mind for you, isn’t it?” To a great degree it is. I have found lots of different types of women attractive.

I remember playing for dance classes at a new school some time back. In one particular class, at the beginning of the semester, there was a girl who I found attractive and another who I didn’t especially. By the end of the semester, they had switched, in my mind, because I’d gotten to know them a little. Girl A, whom I’d thought was totally hot at the beginning of the semester, was a bitch. I couldn’t imagine how anyone would find her attractive. And Girl B, who I’d thought was okay, I later found so extremely attractive. She was smart and funny and pleasant and talented. She was one of those people in a dance class who, when they recognize the melody I’m playing—but with a different accompaniment and rhythm—gets a big smile of recognition on their face. It means 1, they’re paying attention, and 2, they know enough music and know enough about music to recognize what I’m doing. I love those people in dance classes.

(Laura Knight, Kelly Schmidt, and Christina Caravella were those types. And there are others.)

Anyway, that’s how my brain works when it comes to women. It can be difficult for me to separate personality & physical beauty. It also causes me to think a woman I find physically appealing will be smart and funny and liberal and all the other stuff I like. Unfortunately that’s not true most of the time.