Birthday soon

Yeah, my birthday is coming up...again. Right now I’m feeling about it the way I usually do.

So again, I’m taking my birthday off of the facebook to avoid the onslaught of “casual” birthday wishes. If you don’t know what I mean, read my blog from about a year ago: http://christilley.blogspot.com/2010/10/birthday-schmirthday.html

Last year there were people who read the blog, knew that I didn’t want casual birthday wishes, and referred to that fact in their casual birthday wish post on my wall on the facebook.

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Well, here’s an analogy to explain how I feel about that.
(Yes, I know this particular analogy may offend some people. Offense is not my intent. My intent is, rather, to communicate my point in such a way that people will really get it. If you are offended, sorry. But I’m not gonna lose sleep over it.)

So, you post a casual birthday wish when I’ve stated that I don’t want it. Maybe you do it anyway because you really, really mean it.

But that’s like a man casually groping some unwilling girl who’s said she doesn’t like it. I mean, you sort of expect that some relative may to do it. They’re family, what are you gonna do?

And then there's the guy who does it anyway because he really, really wants to grope her. He likely thinks— you know, if he's thinking at all— that deep down she really wants it as much as he does. Dude, she doesn’t.

Instead of the casual grope, why not take her out, buy her flowers, have dinner & conversation, ask her what she really wants in life and share your own hopes & dreams & fears. If you make her feel special, then she might not mind so much your groping her. In fact, she might want it then, and really enjoy it, and grope you back.