unfriends

I just lost another facebook “friend”, which prompts me to post this.

By the way, I’ve figured out who a lot of you are, and there are a few surprises. Oh well, whatever.

Dear ≈50 people who’ve unfriended me on the facebook:

(Yeah, I know they’re not gonna see this, but...)

I understand if the posts about my new blog made you uncomfortable. But, ya know, several times I’ve mentioned in a facebook post that if you don’t want to see these posts let me know. I could’ve taken you off the list.

I would never simply unfriend someone because they posted something I didn’t like. I might hide them from my news feed, as I have with a handful of people who constantly post religious claptrap &/or right-wing conservative nonsense &/or sports crap that I care nothing about. Or if I had a normal job where I was concerned with what my boss might see on my computer screen when I was on facebook during work hours.

But I wouldn’t unfriend you. I’d probably say something about it: maybe ask you to not post that to me, you know, make a list or something. Or if I found it really troubling or disturbing I’d say so. I might say, “Hey. This is really offensive...or troubling...whatever”. I would start an actual conversation.

Wow, imagine that, actually saying what you think. Expressing your feelings. Oooo, a confrontation.

Why is that so scary? Why can’t people handle that?



Update: 11-7-2011